Question: (From a critical letter) …where and how is it possible to see the upper world?

Answer: You know, it is possible, and it is quite simple and clear: if you look at the world only with your own eyes, you see “this” world. But if you look at the world using the same eyes as someone else, you see the upper world. That is all there is to it!
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Rabbi Aba started and said, “Listen to Me, you stubborn-hearted, who are far from righteousness.” “Listen to Me, you stubborn-hearted” means how hard are the hearts of the wicked.

Their hearts are hard since they do not return to their Master in repentance. This is why they are called, “Stubborn-hearted who are far from righteousness,” meaning far from the Torah, and hence far from righteousness.”

Rabbi Hizkiya said, “They are far from the Creator. And because they are far from the Creator they are called stubborn-hearted.” Why? It is because they do not wish to approach the Creator, for they are stubborn-hearted. And because of it, they are far from righteousness. Because they are far from righteousness, they are far from peace (Rabash, “Man Is Rewarded with Righteousness and Peace through the Torah”).

A person may perform many actions and study the Torah, yet, as Rabbi Aba says, still fail to attain the degree of faith. He considers himself righteous because in terms of his actions he truly is righteous. But he does not attain the degree of faith because the Torah he studies does not draw the surrounding light upon him. He only thinks he is righteous, and therefore blames the path and does not see that he has reached a dead end.

Rabbi Hizkiya, however, says that it is impossible to attain the degree of peace, or even the degree of a righteous person, the degree of faith, without going through a stage called “stiff-necked” (stubborn-hearted). At this stage, the body resists and wants nothing. It remains in a state of conflict, rejects everything, and refuses to agree with anything along this path because it sees that it is being corrected and brought into submission.

But if a person continues on the path, and draws the light that reforms upon himself, he fights against the hardness of his heart, overcomes it, and breaks his heart. This is called joy for the brokenhearted.

Then he is rewarded with the Torah filling his broken heart, and correcting it. When he has gone through this breaking and corrected himself, he attains peace (Shalom).
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From the Daily Kabbalah Lesson 9/14/26, Rabash, “Man Is Rewarded with Righteousness and Peace through the Torah”

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Question: A child hurts himself and bursts into tears. You shouldn’t buy him a sweet treat just to stop him from crying. Instead, you need to talk to him. Do you agree?

Answer: Yes, you need to talk to him.

Question: So you sit down and talk to him. But what can you say to a child who has hurt himself?

Answer: You should explain that he needs to be more careful, discuss why he got hurt and what happened. Explain all of this to him.

Question: I see. So you speak to him more or less as an equal?

Answer: More or less. But he should still feel that an adult is speaking to him. And he should feel that he is being taught something.

Question: Should the child understand what the adult wants from him?

Answer: The child should understand that the adult wants to explain to him how to relate properly to all kinds of circumstances in life, especially unpleasant ones.

Comment: I see. Here’s another situation: A child wanted to climb a tree, but couldn’t manage it and burst into tears. His father came over, lifted him onto the branch he wanted to reach, and the tears disappeared. Everything was fine. But psychologists say you shouldn’t do that.

My Response: Why shouldn’t you?

Comment: Because they believe the child should reach the branch on his own.

My Response: But what if he can’t? Why should you leave the child struggling? Why shouldn’t you explain anything to him? Even animals, wolves and other creatures…

Comment: They pick up their young by the scruff of the neck and lift them somewhere.

My Response: Yes, of course. They teach their young. They take them along, play with them, and teach them. What kind of psychologists have come up with these ideas?!

Comment: Apparently, there are such psychologists, as you can see. They want children to go through everything on their own, including all their sorrows.

My Response: We should treat children the way animals treat their young. They help them, explain things to them, and play together with them.

Question: Let me add another example of my own. Suppose a child is assembling a construction set and can’t figure it out. A parent comes over. Should the parent assemble it for him?

Answer: Absolutely not! No. The parent should play together with the child and, through guiding actions and questions, help him figure out what needs to be done.

You have to be a teacher. A teacher is someone who gives hints about the right solutions and explains the wrong ones, the mistakes, and so on. In other words, it’s a process of reviewing and analyzing what happened.

Comment: Here’s another situation: A child is sad. You shouldn’t rush to cheer him up by any means possible. You should allow him to experience what sadness feels like. That’s what these psychologists write.

My Response: Not sadness for the sake of sadness, but so that he knows how to come out of it and understands that such emotional states have just as much right to exist within us as happiness and joy.

Question: To summarize all of this, how would you describe the proper attitude of a parent toward a growing child?

Answer: Become his friend and do things together with him.

Question: Can you become a child’s friend at any age?

Answer: At any age.

Question: Can I be a friend to my three-year-old son?

Answer: By the age of three, it’s already too late.

Question: Too late?! 🙂

Answer: Of course, it’s too late. Starting at around one year old, a child already understands that you’re playing with him and senses how you’re playing, whether you’re treating him as an equal or not.

Question: So we should become our children’s friends?

Answer: Yes.
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From KabTV’s “News with Dr. Michael Laitman,” 8/21/26

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If a person wants to advance toward the purpose of creation and attain spirituality at any cost, then they are taught what spirituality truly is and are helped to analyze their own personal state. They welcome criticism and the revelation of evil within themselves because this helps them identify their deficiencies in their personal work and find ways to address them.

In other words, criticism is permitted only with regard to those people who are in the group. But not for the sake of criticism itself, but so that we build an environment in which a person can feel what he truly lacks in his personal correction. In any case, the recognition of evil rests upon him himself.

Throughout the entire path we traverse, we wish to reveal the uniqueness of the Creator’s rule and to what extent we are capable of being included in this single force and becoming true partners in it together with all the evil that awakens in us.

This path consists in the fact that a person takes hold of two reins, two factors that act upon him, while the one governance stands before him as an example. He uses his desire to receive on the left side and the forces of correction on the right side to be included in the most effective way possible in the single rule of the Creator with all the forces, with all his “I,” in an active form, as His partner.

This means that he wants to come to the connection of Malchut and Zeir Anpin of Atzilut until they become equal in a state of continuous adhesion. Thus, the goal is, first, the revelation of the uniqueness of the Creator’s rule, and second, the revelation of the extent to which I am not capable of being there but want to be there and gradually, degree by degree, to be included in it as an acting partner.

At the same time, the degrees of a person’s inclusion, with all his desire, with all his abilities, gradually change in accordance with how he is included in the rule of the one and passes from the rule of the many to the single rule of the Creator.

This means that he and the Creator are under one rule, that this is only the rule of the Creator, and that he is attached, included, adhered to it with all his desires, thoughts, and actions.
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From the Daily Kabbalah Lesson 10/26/26, Rabash, “The Importance of Recognition of Evil”

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